It's why your lady friend just said those two possibly thrilling, possibly terrifying words: "I'm pregnant." So what do you say when the woman you love—or really, really like, or kind of like, or don't really know—tells you there's a baby with your DNA growing inside of her? "It took me a long, long time to come to grips with what my life would be," he says.Hint: It's not the first thing that comes to mind. Alternatively, don’t preach against it—I don’t care if you’re a descendant of Joseph Smith himself. "That’s all I could think about during that first conversation."Which ended up being not so great for their relationship.Nor probably the second So The Talk—whether it’s "We’re having a baby! "—requires more tact, respect, and understanding than you’ve probably ever had to summon. "It took months to get on the same wavelength," he told me.And yes, of course, you’re going to have a whole feelings clafouti, too—your life, relationships, finances, are all at stake as well. Call your brother, best friend, anyone besides the bun-in-the-oven party, and vent to him. ") For now, put your hand somewhere comforting—hold her hand, her shoulder; no, not her boob, sorry. Don’t rehash the night of conception like a carnal Encyclopedia Brown. This might be the hardest situation of them all—you guys know each other, not just in the biblical sense. (Your left eyebrow starts to twitch.) And that’s exactly why it’s so important to communicate.
They're not the only celebrity couple who's pregnancy was revealed after just a few months into their relationship.
I am just getting alot of signs that i am, so im a bit worried. I REALLY don't want to "jump" to conclusions here, but your profile says you want more children. Also, why would you not have him wear a condom even though you are on the pill, or whatever contraceptive. Sorry, but I see the need for a redflag here..i admit that i am not that good at condoms use..is one of my weaknesses. I'm not going to judge you as responsible or irresponsible, that's not my deal.
It's just now you have to really think things through carefully. If you are pregnant and you are against abortion, then having the child seems to be the way to go.
And trust us, she wants to hear all about that…The moment you learn you might be fathering a child with someone whose last name you’re not quite sure how to spell, panicked my-young-life-is-over thoughts will likely invade your brain. One female friend of mine who had The Talk with a guy she’d been seeing for only two months remembers, "He immediately put his head in his hands and started moaning ’Oh shit, oh shit, oh shit’ for maybe Do the opposite of that. Don’t pressure her with a cross-examination: "What are YOU going to do? Make a plan to talk again tomorrow or maybe the next day. It might even be worth seeing a therapist together so you can each express what you’re feeling without hurting the other. "I was mad at the world for three months," he says.
(It’s 0 to 0.) It’s a nice gesture, since you’re not the one who will sport a giant maxi pad for a month. It’s not that he didn’t want to have children with her. After traveling more, drinking more, and maybe taking mushrooms at Dollywood—all the things that fall firmly into the Do Before Procreating category.