But, the fact that Valentine's Day is technically a calendar holiday is no reason to speed anything up, or put extra pressure on yourself or your relationship, no matter what stage you and your partner are in, she says.
"If you're looking to build an equal partnership — which is healthy, as opposed to having one partner in control — then that shift [from wanting to have plans to not] could be a big deal," she says. those in a "half-relationship" or "relationship limbo." "Valentine's Day can feel awkward if you're casually hooking up or in a budding relationship, because it's a holiday geared toward declaring your love and making romantic gestures," says Samantha Burns, a licensed mental health counselor and dating coach. Now imagine you're asking the same person that question on the most loaded day of the year for couples: Valentine's Day. Sure, it doesn't have to be that way, but Valentine's Day can often make it feel like the pressure's on, or at least amplify the awkwardness for people who haven't clearly defined what their relationship is — a.k.a.Wikipedia defines infatuation as: the state of being completely carried away by unreasoning passion or love; addictive love.Infatuation usually occurs at the beginning of a relationship.