Maybe they complain about how often you talk to your brother on the phone, or say they don't like your best friend and don't think you should hang out with her anymore.
Examining Their Behavior Watching Their Interactions Freeing Yourself From a Controlling Personality Community Q&A Those who try to control other people are, simply put, neither nice nor respectful. They are likely to put the brakes on your leading a fulfilling, independent life if you're in constant close proximity to them.
Consequently, you find yourself walking on eggshells trying to avoid problems, but it never seems to work. Interestingly, while he belittles you in private, he may be quite the charmer in public. Don’t assume that things will get better on their own.
You feel a knot in your stomach whenever he is around you. This is extra confusing, because none of your friends or family are able to validate what you’re experiencing. Often, they tend to get worse over time and might even cross over into the realm of physical attacks.
" Do any or all of these former partners remind you of someone in your life?
There’s a thin line between a loving boyfriend and a controlling boyfriend.
But unknowingly, this subtle urge to help our partner lead a better life could turn into a dangerous obsession for all the wrong reasons.
So even though you may keep telling your friends that you want something different -- maybe a more thoughtful partner, one who accepts you for who you are and doesn't try to control you -- you will likely still gravitate to the controlling parental figure, a personality you are familiar with and have experience handling.
Breaking the Early Patterns As you mature and grow, you may recognize that you want a different kind of partner in your adult life.